What to give as a Bar/Bat Mitzvah gift is probably one of the biggest decisions you have to make once that invitation arrives… well, that and what to wear. Should you give money or a gift? If it’s a gift you choose, what will it be?
Sometimes it just feels right to give a gift to a Bar or Bat Mitzvah child rather than money. Of course gift giving is a very personal thing and there’s often some sentimentality to your choice of a present. It also requires extra thought. It’s nice to give such a gift when the Bar/Bat Mitzvah child is close to you and you want to give something that will make them think of you when they use it.
When giving gifts, the sky is the limit. You can go big or small or you can give a present or a check.
Here are a few ideas that I hope will inspire you:
Money is a perfectly acceptable gift for someone celebrating their bar mitzvah or bat mitzvah, however, it can be far more rewarding and memorable to hand select a gift for him or her instead. Though gift cards are acceptable, often the intent behind gifting money is so the bar/bat mitzvah boy/girl can put this money into their savings account for later.
If you decide to give money as a gift, consider following the common Jewish tradition of giving money in multiples of 18. The reason for this is because “18” in Jewish numerology refers to life, or “chai,” so money gifted using that number is considered a blessing.
If you want to go the extra mile and give the bar mitzvah boy or bat mitzvah girl a gift they will remember, here are a few ideas for you:
A tzedakah box is a beautiful box designated to collect money for charities. Every week the boy or girl can put a few coins in before lighting their Shabbat candles. Today you can buy different kinds of tzedakah boxes made of wood, porcelain and get them engraved or have picture put on to it. This personalizes the gift and makes it so much more than just “another tzedakah box” in the house.
This is a common gift and is useful to have. The bar/bat mitzvah boy/girl will get a lot of use out of these holy books. You can get their names’ printed on them to personalize the gift.
A kiddush cup is something the bar mitzvah boy can use every Shabbat and on other Jewish holidays. This is a great gift to give the bar mitzvah boy in preparation for the future. It is his own personal cup.
A simple but elegant gift, a bookmark inscribed with the boy or girl’s name in Hebrew or the Star of David makes for a great way for them to mark the page in any religious books they may be reading. It could even be a complement to the chumashim you get them!
As the boy or the Torah, they will often use a Torah pointer to keep track of their place while reading from the Torah. There are many different options and styles to choose from, from the more modern styles to the traditional and ornate ones.
Jewelry is one of the most common gifts given to a bat mitzvah girl and usually accompanied by a jewelry box. Remember to suit the two to the bat mitzvah girl and even ask her sister or her mother what her preferences are. Make sure that the gift can be exchanged so that the bat mitzvah girl can enjoy her gift.
You can also get all these gifts using a very cool app called the Simcha App. It lets you gift in under 52 seconds.
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